“One group I never had an issue with, period, was Heathens. At the time most of the Heathen folk I knew I ran into primarily at festival space. One year, I used a different set of pronouns and had a different presentation (I’ve been Laine in a lot of circles for a long time so the name thing wasn’t an issue; it’s a delightfully unisex name) and that was that. Frankly, no one seemed to blink an eye or treat me any differently except in the ways that we socialize differently with people of different genders.
I was a little surprised there, and I realized that it did fit in well with some Heathen concepts and ethics. I was my deeds. I spoke, I told people who I was, and I acted on it. Nothing I did contradicted that. No one treated me like a man, or a psycho, or an idiot. People gave me exactly as much respect as they gave me before, and in some cases a little more for having the guts to come out.”